Monday, November 1, 2010

Day 10 → Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.

Most people can sit down and say that they truly hate at least one person. They can pinpoint the exact moment in their lives when that one person screwed everything up for them in a bad way and they place the blame on the guilty party. Most people can let you know exactly whom they shouldn't have in their lives, but its like a guilty pleasure, they just can't help it and this person stays around.

I am not most people. I have the ability to cut people out. No questions asked. I simply stop speaking to them. Sometimes an explanation is given, other times they know damn well what they did and why I no longer have any contact with them. I don't know if it's a flaw or a blessing, but I don't NEED people in my life. Do I want people there? Sure, who doesn't. But I can easily live with or without your friendship. People put themselves up far too high on pedestals and think that someone needs them to survive. A lot of people can't survive without their friends.

Before I had a child, I had a lot of 'friends'. I had a lot of people in my life in general. I also was out bar hopping every week, making 'friends' left and right and having a great time. However, when I got pregnant and more so after I had Alexa, my 'friends' disappeared. Just like that. Poof - gone. I could no longer go out when I pleased, could no longer be the life of the so called party. And believe me, I was quite happy staying home. I can now count on both hands how many people are truly there for me, and how many people really matter in the end. Truth is your family are the ones who matter and you can only ever really count on yourself.

I also have no one that I wish I didn't know. Every single person who has come into and out of my life has taught me something about myself or about people in general. 99% of the time people will only disappoint you anyway. I think that more people need to learn to stand up for themselves, and cut people out before they have a detrimental effect on their lives. Believe me, you'll be a hell of a lot happier if you do.

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